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Questions to Ask Yourself Before Engaging In Casual Sex

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I had a lot of casual sex because I felt bored, and I had a lot of fragmented sex. I remember getting drunk and walking down the streets of Mill avenue and running into a really tall bouncer at a club. After his shift my friend and I met him at his apartment where we continued to drink and smoke weed. I remember him picking me up by the pants with one hand. I woke up on his penis in the wierdest position. The sex was painful and it must have lasted all night because at 6 in the morning he was still destroying my vagina. I remember a different time getting high and waking up on anothers  guys penis and wondering how I got naked?The majority of the times I have had sex I was under the influence of drugs or alcohol.  Sex didn’t feel good when I was sober, I had to be drunk or high to perform. There was a time in my life when I could not have sex with a man without being under the influence. Why was I having sex that I could not remember? If sex felt like a prison then why did I continue to do it? I guess I just hated myself and sex was my punishment. A penis was an ugly obtrusive thing that could reach the hurt I felt deep inside of me.

Questions to ask Yourself

  • Does casual sex physically satisfy you?

  • Are you looking for emotional satisfaction from sex with this man?

  • Do you want to have casual sex to help build your self-esteem and finally give you the confidence that you have been missing?

  • As you contemplate spreading your legs are you prepared for the consequences that come with having  casual sex?

  • Can you handle never hearing from this man again?

  • Will you feel like he took a piece of you?

  • Do you have expectations of a relationship?

  • Do you have a healthy body image?

  • Do you believe that you have self-worth?

  • Do you love yourself?

  • Are you afraid of saying no to sex?

  • Do you need to be under the influence of drugs or alcohol to have sex with men?

  • Are you engaging in casual sex because you are bored?                                                                                                                                                                                       I do not have to tell you the right answers to these questions. It should be obvious by your answers if casual sex is really what you want and if you should engage in it or not.