That moment when you wake up tangled in foreign sheets in an unfamiliar bed pressed up against a cold wall next to a guy you hardly know, is always awkward. The morning after casual sex is always awkward. Do you stay and wait for him to wake up? Or do you leave without disturbing him? Should you turn the light on to try and find your panties, or do you let him find them so if you haven’t heard from him after a week, then you have a reason to call him? Should you wait a week? Is that too long?
So, you decide to leave without waking him, but he opens one eye lazily, says bye and throws the covers back over his head. What’s even worse than the awkward silence of lying next to a stranger, and trying not move is seeing him a week later and you get the cold shoulder. Plus you never got those expensive panties back. Why didn’t he call you? Not that you even wanted a relationship or anything like that, but he didn’t call you back not even for seconds? You start feeling the heat rise in your cheeks, and for no reason you feel embarrassed. Before you know it, you are drowning in a sea of insecurity and self-doubt.
A week later, you decide to drown your sorrows at the bar, and you bump into a casual acquaintance. You’re drunk, he’s drunk and you end up at your place. Things get hot and heavy.His shirt comes off, and your shirt comes off, and before you can blink his erection is gone. All of a sudden he’s lost interest, and he asks if he can sleep on your couch.
You want the truth, the real reason why you never heard from both guys again? What’s wrong with you? Why couldn’t he get an erection?
Casual sex is supposed to be full of fun and fantasy. Chances are you probably had an extra ten pounds in all the wrong places. Maybe you have too much pubic hair, or your breasts are like runny eggs, or you may have an odor down there. The author of the blog Until I get married inside the mind of the modern day bachelor compares sex to pizza and even though I myself find this to be a gross comparison it is very accurate when describing casual sex. Sure sex is good, but when it comes to sex with a man that does not know you, he does not want to deal with your physical imperfections. The truth is, he did not want to sleep with you again because you looked better with clothes on than off, you were boring in bed, your breasts were too small and on and on the list could go.
What does that say about you? A man saw you naked and couldn’t get an erection. You offer free sex and you get turned down? You never hear from any of the guys you sleep with?
Engaging in casual sex rarely has the happy ending that is often seen on TV. Sex does not define who you are. Even if you have had seven sex partners and only one called you back, that does not make you worthless or lacking in anyway. But do you really want to treat yourself that way?