I recently heard of a 14 year old girl that “came out” to her mother as pan-sexual. How does a 14 year old know more about being pan-sexual than most adults? And where did she learn that from? What is she learning in the school? And why has our society become so sex obsessed? What is pan-sexual? And why doesn’t the definition make any sense? School is for learning and preparation for the future. Why aren’t more American kids coming out of school prepared? They can tell you everything about sex but can’t spell a simple word, don’t know geography, and don’t let me get started on math. I’m not saying this is true of all American students but its true for quite a bit. Why should kids be educated on sexuality when most can’t spell the word or understand the meaning? Childhood is fleeting. You have your whole life to worry about sex, and sexuality why put yourself in a box at such a young age? I feel sorry towards the generations coming after me; they are truly in trouble if their concern is sex and gender based.
On a very basic biological level scientists use our DNA to identify us. And what can DNA tell us? It can tell us whether the individual is male or female, xx or xy. DNA can tell us about hair color, eye color, diseases and a few other very basic things.
DNA is the most scientific way to identify a person. It doesn’t tell you much, but it tells you about the biological make up of a person. And from DNA we learn that a person on a biological level can only be male or female. If biologically a person can only be male or female then why are some people determined to undermine science and nature to create new genders? Why does Facebook now have 51 different genders? In the beginning God created man and woman. Biologically and scientifically there is only male and female. Gender does not only encompass one’s feelings about their gender but it encompasses the physical attributes as well. For example, when a baby is born they tell you “Congratulations it’s a boy by looking between the baby’s legs and seeing the penis, or if they see a vagina they say “it’s a girl,” should we wait to differentiate the sex of babies until they can tell us how they feel? At the end of the day if you left behind DNA the only thing one could tell about your identity as far as sex, is whether you are a male or female. That is the truth and that is reality.
But the point of this blog is not to argue about being male or female. It’s to tell people that your sexuality, sexual identity and sexual preference do not define who you are. You are more than who you’re attracted to, and you are more than what you choose to do with your genitals. Why put yourself in a box? Being pan-sexual, transsexual, homosexual, bi sexual, heterosexual and whatever other sexual there is out there is a very tiny aspect of who you are, at least it should be. Your sexuality should not define you. There is more to life than living and functioning solely based on your sexuality.
What legacy are you going to leave behind? What are your goals? What are your dreams? What are you passionate about? What type of a person are you? What characteristics define you? These things play a bigger role in one’s identity than sexuality alone. There are too many people trapped in the web of using sexuality to identify themselves. Why do you need the acceptance of others? I wonder if it’s because you have a hard time accepting yourself and sexual choices. And if you can’t accept yourself, or the choices you’re making maybe you’re making the wrong choice and you’re not so sure about who you are.
The most important thing I have to share. God loves you just as you are in this very moment. He loves you the homosexual, the transgender, the pan-sexual, the heterosexual or whatever else it you identify yourself as. He wants you to come as you are. He truly wants to have a relationship with you, and He sees you for who you are aside from your sexuality and gender identification. God will meet you where are you. He didn’t just die for the “normal” or what society thinks is normal and good He died for everybody. He loves you, He loves you so much, and I hope that today You would encounter the love of God. And guess what even if you don’t choose Him, or believe in Him He still loves you.
So I ask again, who are you? Setting aside your sexuality, even your gender, you are most definitely human. And being human means that you are made in the image of the living God, and He has a much bigger plan and purpose for your life outside of your sexuality.